The Pros And Cons Of Shaving Your Beard for Your Spouse – A Comprehensive Guide

The topic of whether or not you should shave your beard if your wife or girlfriend asks you to is a very common.

In fact, not all women like bearded men! (But of them do)

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To decide whether or not you should shave your beard for your spouse, you have to take into account several factors, including personal preferences, lifestyle, how serious your relationship is, and much more.

In this article, I will discuss all of these factors and let you decide the best things to do with your beard.

Why Does Your Wife Want You To Trim Or Shave Your Beard?

Before we dive into what you should do when your wife asks you to cut your beard we should try to understand her perspective and why she is asking you to do so.

Here are some of the reasons she might want you to shave your beard:

  1. Your beard is rough, and she is in pain when she tries to kiss you
  2. Your beard stinks, and she doesn’t like its smell
  3. Your beard doesn’t look good on you
  4. Your wife is controlling
  5. Your wife wants to see how you will react to her will

These are the 5 most common reasons that make your wife want you to shave your beard!

Let’s explain them a little so we can get in their shoes.

The first reason your wife may not like your beard is if it is rough and decreases intimacy. If she gets a beard burn every time she kisses you or you kiss her down there, she may feel uncomfortable with you.

This is a valid reason, and we will talk later on about it in detail.

Secondly, your beard has to be clean, and it actually gives you a chance to make her want to kiss you even more. Wash your face 2 times a day and apply beard oil with a nice scent.

This will automatically change her opinion about the situation.

Third, she might want you to shave your beard if you look better without it. This is also a valid reason; however, you should have your own opinion. More on that later on.

The final two reasons are the real problem. Some women want to take control of the relationship. It is what it is, guys. There are many women like that.

These are the cases you should be aware of and why I chose to write this article passionately.

Let’s dive deeper into these cases.

Should I Shave My Beard If My Wife Wants Me To? (Answers to the Specific Situations)

Let’s start with the easy stuff.

If your beard undeniably decreases intimacy between you and your partner, you should consider changing your beard style or even shaving your beard. However, this depends on how she asks you to do it.

If she demands that you do it, or she will divorce you, it changes a lot.

You have to evaluate the situation, recognize toxic women, and get rid of them from your life as soon as possible. You should want a drama-free, happy woman who cares about you and your needs.

The next case is when your beard doesn’t smell well. Again, if she politely tells you that this is happening and she doesn’t like it, you have to consider her opinion. Women want to be heard and understood (but they don’t like weak men).

Suppose your beard stinks; do something about it. Take good care of it. You don’t need to shave it.

Let’s move to case number 3. If your wife or girlfriend thinks you look better without your beard, you should discuss this subject with her.

If she is polite and willing to discuss, be nice to her too. Tell her that you like your beard and that it makes you feel confident, masculine, and badass if that’s the case.

At the end of the day, shaving a beard is an emotional decision for a man. A beard is a way of self-expression. A way of communication.

If she acts nicely, after some time, you can try the clean-shaven look for a few days to see how you feel. But, remember, that’s totally up to you. She cannot force you. You are the man. Never forget that YOU are the man.

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If you forget you are the man, she will find another man.

Don’t forget my words. We are all men here. I care for you.

Finally, we reached the point I want to discuss the most.

Toxic, controlling women. Women who think that they can control men because today’s society taught them so.

If you think your wife or girlfriend has such characteristics, not only DO NOT shave your awesome beard but also get rid of her before it is too late. She creates all this drama in your life.

Gentlemen, listen to me. Both parties have to compromise when they are in a relationship or marriage. Otherwise, relationships do not work.

However, it is very different when someone tries to force you to do something against your will, against your nature.

These are controlling women who love to be leaders. If you are masculine, too, you should keep in mind that they won’t let you be yourself. The shaving of the beard is not the whole picture.

If we stay on that, we focus on the tree and can’t see the forest.

Take control of your relationship and stand up as a man. Relationship dynamics are vital compenents of a successful relationship.

If you like your beard, tell her,” I am not going to shave my beard, honey. End of story”. If she likes it, fine; otherwise, she is free to destroy someone else’s life. Not yours.

Now, you think, Tasos, I do not want to miss her. I just want her and my beard.

I am not here to lie to you so that you feel ok. I am here to tell you the truth. A woman respects a man that stands up to himself, a man who is a leader. Women respect men with unique and strong personalities, even if they are not kind.

Women like masculine men. If you comply with her unreasonable requests, you decrease your level of attraction and your perceived value.

She will probably cheat on you or dump you for a more masculine man if this happens.

To Sum Things Up

In this article, I answered a very common question. Should a man shave his beard for his wife or girlfriend?

All in all, it depends. If you have a logical, polite, kind woman who asks you to do it, explains herself, and allows you to do it or not, then consider considering her opinion.

On the other hand, if your wife tries to test your masculine core or tries to control you and be the leader in your relationship, then stand out for yourself.

Tell her you aren’t gonna do it, and do NOT explain yourself. Show her that you are the man. She needs to see that to respect you. And you have to be consistent in your everyday life as well.

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That’s it for today’s article. I think this is one of my best-ever articles, and I hope you respect the level of effort I put into it. This is not stolen information. This comes from personal experience. You cannot find it elsewhere.

If you have any questions, hit me up. I am here for you.

Until next time,

Stay safe,


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